A.K.A. The Best Man

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

 Confused best man. May flowers ba ang best man? Help!
For the first time in my life, I became the best man in a wedding, chaching. The last time I walked an aisle for a bridal entourage was way back 16 years ago as a ring bearer. Hindi pa ako heartthrob nun, child star pa lang, nyahaha.

When my cousin asked me to be his best man for the wedding, I didn't hesitate. It was both a privilege and an opportunity for me to finally get involved, "this iz it" ang eksena. I've never been such an utmost significance in a wedding ever since my ring bearer moment back then. For the past weddings I've been to, parang wala lang kasi. I didn't feel involved, so I didn't care. Haha. Joke. Baka di niyo nako iinvite sa weddings niyo. I was happy for the newly weds and I expressed my best wishes; pero I think I cared more about the aftermath: the reception, the food, the garter, the bridesmaids...joke!

The groom with his men. Ang gwapo ko rito! Haha
 But recently, I had to play attentive and concerned in a wedlock. I really didn't know how to act as a best man because it was my first time. I didn't even bother ask nor research. There weren't no rehearsals either. At saka, it was not that much of a big problem like how I should be concerned of my obesity, lol. So by the eleventh hour, saka nako nag-act concerned and involved kuno. I felt busier kasi in my other world (shootings, press cons -- lolz). Kaya tuloy, last minute ko na rin nadiscover na di kasya yung pants for me. Good thing naisip ko the night before na magsukat at magpalit; eh di sana nagmukha nakong suman sa wedding.

Anyhoo, dahil uso, I matched my barong attire with a pair of rubber shoes. Dressed up na kuno ako, but then, I was still clueless of what to do during the wedding. Ano ba? Magka-cat-walk na lang ba ako there ala Bench model?

Poise na poise! Parang zombie lang.
Pero dahil fast learner naman daw me at marunong makiramdam, the wedding went well. Thank you wedding planner for the 10-second instructions. Just in case anyone needs to know what best men do in a wedding, heed to these:

The following are based from my observationsw. But as far as I know, these are the general duties of a best man you could cling on if you're on last minute enlightenment.

(1) The best man is the first one to walk on the aisle to lead the groom and his parents to their respective places (yung parents sa confession room). At para di sayang ang photo ops, be in your best gentlemanly stance while walking down the aisle. Walang time limit kaya slow down. Poise! :) Hihi

(2) The best man receives the rings and the coins from the bearers and places them on a designated area place (most likely to an area nearest you or right beside the wedding official). Wag ng umasa sa wedding planner.

(3) The best man hands the rings to the wedding official for the blessing/prayer.

(4) The best man holds the microphone kung merong microphone. Kung wala, remind the groom to shout para marinig ng masa ang vow.

(5) The best man assists the groom in every way possible. Utusan ang best man for that day. Well, I must say, yung maid of honor nga from the name itself "utusan" na. Kaya as the counterpart, best men I think, had to be "utusans". Char, gawa-gawa ko lang to ha.

Being majorly involved in that wedding was also the closest I've been to observe one. Kaya emotional at excited din ako along with the groom na parang ako lang yung ikakasal. Tuloy, gusto ko ng ikasal, weeee. Most probably according to the ghosts in the sky, I'm next.

Anyway, anyhow, congrats to the newly wed! Congrats 'insan! Dontcha worry, I cared about the wedding. I got involved and didn't only think of the reception. Thank you for this wonderful opportunity, chaching


Kol Me Empi said...

Naks naman!

Hoobert the Awesome said...

HAHAHA. Tawa ako ng tawa sa post na 'to Sendong. Ikaw na!

Apir tayo! Mabenta din ako bilang ring bearer/coin bearer/bible bearer nung bagets pa ako. Enjoy na enjoy naman si Mama 'cos invited lagi buong family. Oh kitams, tipid. Di na kailangan magluto.

Pero ngayon, why oh why? Madalang na ang kumukuha ng serbisyo ko. At least nga ikaw nakapag-best man na. Ako hanggang pagiging grooms man lang ang beauty ko. Hahaha.

Ay, wala bang bulaklak ang best man? Sayang.

Happy 2012!

Sendo said...

@hoobert. ako lang ang best man na may bouquet haha

Jill said...

hahah ang creepy naman nung first pic.

Wala bang pics yung sa bridesmaid & garter? Just curious.

Traveliztera said...

Awwww big role ! Next naman, ikaw na super duper starring! congrats sa cousin mo at sa wife nya!

love the barong!

and the flowers na hawak mo !

rah said...

COngrats sa newly weds. :)napaka cool din ng posing niyo. tas yung shoes pa niya white na parang chucks. never pa ako naging best man, and barely have a clue on what they do. Thanks sa tips :)

Anonymous said...

natawa ako sa comparison ng ring bearer at best man, panalo! in fairness i like the barong and rubber shoes. apir! yung number 4 na gawain ng best man, ibang klase. palagay ko ilan lang ang may alam nyan haha

YOW said...

Kadalas kong maging isa sa grooms men kapag may kasal. Kahilig nila sa akin. LOL. Pero I never experienced being the Best Man. Parang cool, parang ang special! Hahaha. Solo pa ang name mo sa invitation. Attention-seeker lang? Pero pag nakakinuha ako, babalikan ko ulit ang post mo. LOL.

Sendo said...

@Yow..magiging best man ka rin haha

@prince samusang....buti na lang nagprovide pa ko ng guide hehe

@rah -- oo baka abutin ka pa ng pagiging best man ^^ kasi pag kasal na daw di na pwede maging best man hehe

@steph-para sayo ung flowers hehe

@jill -- creepy? oo nga, sukob, patay na buhay, pugot ulo...pang halloween! haha

pusang kalye said...

ikaw na pala ang naka iphone 4s!!!:D---merry xmas Sendo!~!!!!looking forward to 2012.:D

Sendo said...

@anton ---hindi yan 4s...iphone poor lang yan hehe. ^^ Merry merry Christmas! HAPPY NEW YEAR ^^

My Nomadic Habits said...

ikaw na! ikaw na ang BEST man sa tibuok kalibutan..Happy New Year!

dong ho said...

bagay na bagay naman pala. ako once palang naging best man at malamang di na mauulit. dapat ako na ikakasal.

Josh said...

Ikaw na ang best man, Sendo! Hahaha.

By the way, hope you'll have a happy new year, too brother.. :) God bless you. Amping pirmi. :)

McRICH said...

bilib ako syo dahil nadala mo yung barong with rubber shoes, model na model a!

Dhemz said...

awwwwww...tsosyal naman ha...best man pa...panindigan mo yan Sendz...ehehhee!

it's great to hear from you again...thanks for dropping by!

Merry Christmas kahit late na...and have a fabulous New year ahead!

Ishmael Fischer Ahab said...

Sa susunod niyan ikaw naman ang groom. :-)

A blessed New Year to you and your family.